“The most beaut…

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” -Elizabeth Kübler-Ross

I heard this quote this weekend and was reminded how much I love it.  I wanted to share it with you.

We can choose to become bitter and mean when we go through hard things.

Or we can choose to become beautiful people.

The hard times will come.  What will you choose?

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A New Love

Y’all.

I have fallen in love.  It’s a new love.

I am in love…with chevrons.

Yes, I know, I’m a bit late to the fad, but it hit me last night as I was looking up laptop skins, and found so many pretty chevron options.

Like this.  And this one.

Love them!

P.S. The nerd in me loves the word “chevron,” because it makes me think of Stargate SG-1.  I love that show.

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Messages from Yourself

I have had two experiences recently where a friend asked for advice, and I gave it, and then after the conversation was over I realized I needed to hear that advice as much as my friend did.

Sometimes it’s so easy to give advice but not follow it yourself (even when you know it’s right). Why is that?

I’m thankful I was able to recognize that the messages I was giving my friends were also meant for me, because they really helped me overcome some life speed-bumps.

Can you think of a time recently where you’ve given advice and realized you needed it as much as the person you were helping?

I wonder if all the advice we give is actually meant for us to hear, too. I have a feeling it is.

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Giant Nutella

Giant Nutella

Y’all. I was in Europe recently and I found this in the airport. A 5000 mL BUCKET of Nutella.

Look at it. Look at all of the deliciousness. LOOK AT THE BEAUTY.

I only wish I could have brought it home with me.

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Dreaming BS

So I’ve noticed (who hasn’t?) a common theme going around the internet, especially among people who would like to be self-employed: there are a lot of excuses floating around for not working towards our goals.

“If I only had more money saved up…”
“If I only had more time in my day…”
“If I just had the right ______ (house, computer, wardrobe, husband, WHATEVER), I’d be able to succeed at my goal!”

I’m calling BS on all of that.  Why?  Because I’m proof that it’s not true.  I’ve been in a situation for more than a year where I’ve had more than enough time and plenty of funds (and an awesome husband, but perhaps I digress…), and I’m STILL finding ways to procrastinate and not follow through on my goal of creating a business!

It’s not about your schedule, or your time management (or your spouse).  It’s about your commitment.  (Gotta give Tiffany Han a shout-out for teaching me this one.)  If you could find just 5 minutes a day to work on your dream, that adds up to over 30 hours a year.  And that’s 30 hours closer to your goals than if you just spent those 5 minutes surfing Facebook every day instead.  How about an hour each Saturday?  That’s 52 hours of growth toward your goal!  

(BTW, did you know it only takes 20 hours to get relatively proficient at a new skill?  Check out Josh Kaufman’s TED Talk to learn more about that.)

So, what goal do you need to recommit to?

And how can you think about working towards it in a way that works for YOU?  

(Don’t worry about how others are doing it.  Seriously.  You’ve got to find the way that works for you, and it probably won’t look like how others are doing it.  Even if that means committing to trying a different tactic every week until you find your sweet spot.  You’ll find it.  Just don’t give up.  You can do it.)

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Healthy Eating

So this month, I’ve decided to take a big step in creating a way of eating that works for my body.  Or, rather, three big steps.

Over the past year, I’ve discovered some (relatively minor) health issues. One of them is that I have IBS. That means that sometimes my gut freaks out when I eat foods it doesn’t like. I haven’t been able to find a 100% correlation between what I eat and my symptoms, but I did figure out earlier this year that I’m gluten usually causes some issues.  I am gluten intolerant.

Once I figured that out, I decided to eat gluten free. Then along came August and I realized that I’ve “cheated” and eaten gluten at least once a month since January.  I was really only cheating myself.  I wasn’t really giving my body a chance to chill out without having to deal with gluten.

So this month I’ve committed to being gluten free all month. My goal is to get to a point where each year I only splurge on gluten for special occasions like my birthday or Thanksgiving; not just because it’s the middle of the month and I’m feeling lazy and craving gluten-laden junk food.

I also found out about a type of eating called food combining, based on the book Fit for Life by Harvey and Marilyn Diamond.  It was a really interesting read that basically says there are ideal ways to eat certain types of foods together, and when we combine food improperly, we can experience negative digestive side effects.  I decided to start small in trying out their suggestions: I’m having fruit for breakfast.

Finally, the last thing I’ve done is cut caffeine out of my diet (except tea is still allowed).

These three changes have already made a big difference in my digestion.  It still needs some tweaking, but I’m pretty excited about clear changes and feeling better.

The takeaway?  Your body is unique, inside as well as out.  How you can treat it best (which in turn affects how it treats you) probably won’t look like the way other people eat, especially in America.  There’s a reason that the Standard American Diet abbreviates to SAD.  But you can find a way that works for you, and you can find the healing properties that food has for you.  It just might take playing around with things and creativity.  And the allowance for the occasional splurge.

After all, my birthday’s next month.  And I love (gluten-filled) cake.

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One of those days

Do you ever have one of those days where you wake up feeling all prepared to be productive, and then that feeling just disappears?

Maybe you get one thing done, and your motivation just sizzles away.

Maybe something goes wrong and all you want to do is dive into a pint of ice cream and a TV marathon?

Or maybe you just can’t find any explanation for it at all.

I’m having one of those days.

So what to do?

Today, I decided to be gentle with myself, while still getting things done. I made a list of all the things I thought I SHOULD do, that were rattling around in my head. (Just getting them out of my head calmed me down a lot!) Then I decided which things I absolutely had to get done today, and how many would make me feel successful and productive (in this case, I picked 4 things, 2 of which I had to get done and the other 2 I wanted to get done today).

And now I’m going to do those 4 things. And after that, I give myself permission to do whatever I want! If I decide after that I want to do more, then I can. And if I just want to spend the rest of the day reading, I will.

It’s all about giving yourself freedom, while still getting things done. The occasional completely lazy day is awesome, but when laziness becomes your life, it’s not so fun anymore.

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